If we can say one thing about the Arsenal then it is ‘consistent’. Twenty years of getting a Top Four spot has to count for something……….. hasn’t it?
No other team has achieved it, we’ve managed to get Champions League football, up there with the elite of Europe for the past twenty years. It truly is an achievement… isn’t it?
Even over the last twelve years, with just two FA Cup wins to our name and a fairly mediocre team, they’ve still been able to finish each season in fourth, third or second place, most teams look upon the Arsenal with awe and envy……. don’t they?
Arsenal are now like a married couple who have managed to stay together for twenty years, when you’ve been through several relationships and marriagies during the same period. You envy their ability to stay together and still seem happy. you look on in awe at how consistant they’ve been through the good times and the bad.
However, what you don’t see is what comes with their consistency, and that is boredom. OK, they started off like most couples, it was all new and exciting, and the sex was truly amazing. They never realised that their sex lives could be so good. They tried different positions every night, they both reached amazing orgasms and then they did it again and even better the following day.
Then however, after seven or eight years of having an amazing life together, it became more dependable, more invariable, more……. boring. Now instead of wonderful sex and new heights of sexual achievement, over time it has become comfortable, more predictable, and eventually stagnation has set in.
They still have sex together but it is through habit rather than lust, now they don’t achieve amazing orgasms together and just go through the motions and it is perhaps once a week or even once a month, sometimes even longer. While their friends and relatives head towards angry and contentious separations and divorces, their relationship just rolls along over the years as it weathers the many storms and strains.
In this situation surely it is normal to do something, to react to the predictability and boredom.
Arsenal however, appear to be happy with the situation, they don’t seem to want to regain the excitement and stimulation, they are too scared of making change or going as far as a divorce. The consistency of a top four spot has become their normality.
However, it is all about perception, from the Board, the manager, the players and right down to the fans. There is no objective indicator of boredom, it’s all in the eyes of the participants. For some, consistency is complacency, for others, being consistent is an achievement.
It is your perception of your relationship, rather than the reality, that will determine whether it’s boring. Having a routine, feeling comfortable with each other, and enjoying your similarities don’t seem to be all that important in defining a boring relationship. However, if you believe what you see in romantic comedies, you might think that if you’re not jetting off to grand destinations or dressing up in sexy attire before you have sex, then there’s something wrong with you. Simply enjoying your partner as a person may be the most important and easiest fix for a boring relationship.
What is your Perception? Complacent or Achievement? Should we enjoy the Arsenal just as they are, without the excitement? or should we expect to dress up in sexy attire and have wild, amazing sex and fabulous orgasms on a regular basis?